This? Now?

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Here I am, leaving for Haiti tomorrow and I read Sarah Bessey’s blog. Always she finds a way to strike some chord in me that makes my heart respond. This time it is about women. Her personal Patron Saints and Spiritual Midwives. Never heard of those terms? Me either, and I love that I hadn’t and now have and can and do have my own.

To quote Sarah:

I use the terms Patron Saints and Spiritual Midwives to explain how I feel about the women intrinsically linked to my spiritual journey.

It’s an imperfect metaphor, but in a way, Spiritual Midwives helped God give birth to some new part of me. These women were the midwives – by their lives, their faith, their obedience, their words, their prayers, their real-life example  – for the work that God birthed in me, and through me (they are the women I know personally). I use the phrase Patron Saint to explain how I feel about the women, both past and present, who have shepherded me through their work and legacy, and whom I seek to emulate in some way (these are the women I don’t know personally).

What a concept! It makes me think, reflect and dig deeper. It takes my mind off me and to others which is where it should be most often.

If you’ve followed this blog for any length of time you know I’m blessed by a mother whose life has been one of service to others in the name of love, which is God. My mother-in-law is the most incredible woman of faith I’ve ever known and her influence is stamped on our family.

Grandma Durham 1957

Grandma Durham 1957

With Grandpa after they moved to WA state.

With Grandpa after they moved to WA state.

But there is one who I’ve shared little about. Perhaps because I knew her the least. Grandma Durham lived in California from the time I was born in Massachusetts. We seldom saw her in my childhood but here’s what I know. They had cots in the backyard of their Marysville, CA home. Men could sleep on those metal frames holding a thin mattress under the open sky and grandma would cook a pot of beans to serve them. Somewhere I think I heard they paid 50 cents but more likely they paid in produce; whatever they picked from the fields.

This wasn’t their family business. This was her mission. Grandma’s service to God. Her calling to serve others.

It wasn’t too many years ago mama told me about Grandma buying a pair of stockings for a man. He came to church but didn’t quite fit in. The impression I got was he was transgendered. This would have been years ago and he needed a pair of stockings. No one would help this man with this particular need except Grandma. She cared for people, period. God could take care of the details but she loved them and put that love in action.Yes, to be sure, she is one of my Spiritual Midwives.

Patron Saints I have more of a problem with as the term makes me a wee bit shaky. However, Catherine Booth, wife of our founder, William would be leading the way. She was a strong woman who influenced William and the direction of the Salvation Army in many areas. Her compassion and conviction to act has influenced many over the years.

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There are so many. From the bible I think of Esther and Rahab and Mary, mother of Jesus. Brave women called to serve and used of God in unexpected ways.

The blogosphere has introduced me to so many women who take me into their journey as they write their struggles, doubts and hopes and bare their souls. Sarah Markley, Ann Voskamp, Sarah Bessey are three such women who draw me into a place that brings me closer to God’s breath reminding me I am His.

I fully expect to come back from Haiti with new women to add to this list. Women in the making, perhaps, as we visit the school and children’s home. More Spiritual Midwives to bring me through another delivery of spirit calling my name, calling us to follow deeper. Yes, that will happen.

 

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About Debby

I serve in ministry alongside my husband. We are currently working in the recovery community as administrators of a residential program for men who have lost their way in life, many due to substance abuse issues. This program is called an Adult Rehabilitation Center under the direction of The Salvation Army. My husband and I are officers in this organization and as such, ordained ministers. I have two grown children and one delightful granddaughter. I'm also learning to deal with the effects of dementia as my mother is caught in the mire of this disease. I drink too much Pepsi and sing too loud in my car. I blog about my life. Life among people in recovery, life as a journeyer, life unexpected. My life has the typical messiness of the day to day and in the midst of the mess of me is grace. View all posts by Debby

8 Responses to “This? Now?”

  • judikruis

    Thank you Heavenly Father for all those who have been part of Debby’s birth and renewal. We pray for a journey filled with grace and joy as she goes to share of the love You have given. Let the team be united as one and blessed as they are blessing others!
    Love you sister!

    • Debby

      In His Name….amen. Thank you, Judi. It all goes as planned (ha!) I should be able to post some pictures while there. Probably to Facebook since to share with the guys and a lot more than visit here ;)

  • iamnotshe

    Oh my! Why didn’t i read this yesterday! A pox upon me! ;-)

    Beautifully written, and deeply thought-provoking. I will think about this today as a way of giving thanks and being GRATEFUL for all the wonderful friends I have and women that have helped me along the way.

    Happy trails, and I will be keeping up on all things Haiti as you go …

    I am prepping my Doll for her new Spiritual birth. I shall have a little service with tea and apples :-) i dunno … sounds right? XOXOXO M

  • Sarah Bessey (@sarahbessey)

    Dear Debby – what a gorgeous post! And I’ll be praying as you travel to Haiti. May God be near to you.

    • Debby

      Thank you, Sarah. It’s hard to express the impact of our trip to Haiti. Still processing and hope in many ways the processing will continue to impact my journey in new ways.

  • Bree Durham

    Debby, most of your information about your Grandma Durham is correct.
    She and your Grandpa did indeed put men on cots in our back yard and she fed them beans and cornbread for dinner every night. They also rented the building adjoining Grandpa’s business so she could give some of the men a place to sleep and eat in the winter. It was called Durham’s Rescue Mission. (I have one of those old business cards). Different Preachers would bring the Word to the men. After they ate, of course. And no financial assistance was ever sought nor offered by any agency or person.
    As to the transgender person: you are right. Her name was Carol, when Mom met her. She was born a man. I knew Carol. I met her at Mom’s after we moved to Yakima. She only spoke to Mom, in a low quiet voice. After I was around Mom’s home awhile she would sometimes speak to me, if I ask her something. I never heard her speak to anyone else in Mom’s house. Nice person.

    I could tell you many, many, more stories of your Grandma’s love and acceptance of “Others”. And your Granpa Durham also.

    In His Name,
    Bree

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